Hi, I'm Ray.

Seattle, a little bit art, a little bit science, jiu jitsu brown belt, community, dog person

I’ve always been drawn to work that involves people, curiosity, communication, and a sense of community. I’m grateful for the experiences I’ve had as a corporate marketing executive, and I’m carrying those lessons into a new chapter focused on building something meaningful here in Seattle.

Portrait of Ray Lapena

How I got here.

I have called Seattle home since 2015, after several moves across the country for my career. I have lived in every region of the U.S., and I am grateful to have planted roots here. I am originally from Orange, California, and studied public relations and marketing at Syracuse University.

Both of my parents came from the Philippines and had to build a new life from the ground up. They created a full, loving life for themselves and our family, and set a powerful example for me: work hard, go after your dreams, treat people with kindness, and have fun.

I feel blessed to have had a career that began at GE and grew across technology and cybersecurity, corporate marketing, and plenty of great adventures. Those experiences taught me a lot about people, communication, change, and trust.

I am carrying those lessons into something of my own here in my community, while trying to keep a balanced life with room for creative pursuits, singing, family, community, and the occasional overbooking of new hobbies.

What I'm up to these days.

Showing up in community

I regularly volunteer at the Filipino Community Center, helping in the kitchen and serving lunch to seniors in the Seattle community. I have also volunteered with Food Lifeline, helping reduce food waste and distribute surplus food to food banks across the Pacific Northwest.

It is meaningful, hands-on work that keeps me grounded and connected to something immediate and human.

Volunteering in the community

Training jiu jitsu

Brazilian jiu jitsu has been part of my life for nearly eight years, and it continues to be one of the most grounding things I do. I am a brown belt now, still training at the same school where I started and still very much on the path.

The average time to black belt is around a decade, but I am on no particular timeline. There is still a lot to discover and refine, and that is the part I have come to appreciate most.

The patience, discipline, and consistency it takes to keep showing up has translated into how I approach a lot of things outside the gym.

Brazilian jiu jitsu training

Making things

I enjoy creating and making things, especially when it gives me a chance to work with my hands and make something tangible. I have spent time at my local maker space experimenting with woodworking, laser cutting, and 3D printing.

At home, I have picked up knitting and crochet too. I am always looking for ways to exercise personal creativity, stay curious, and keep building things that feel real and grounded.

Creative projects and hands-on making

Making time for music again

Music has always been part of my life. I sing, play piano, and have spent time in musical theater and a cappella groups. More recently, I have enjoyed bringing a piano back into my home and making room for music again in everyday life.

And in true Filipino fashion, I am always ready to sing.

Singing and performing

Life with Daisy

Daisy has been with me through more than thirteen years of moves, transitions, and new seasons. These days, as she turns fifteen, my partner and I are spending time with her at a gentler pace: fewer big adventures and more quiet time together.

She has been a steady presence through a lot of change, and that slower rhythm brings its own kind of perspective.

Daisy resting outdoors

Say hello.

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